I’ve always enjoyed studying scripture on our thoughts, the mind, and the results of thinking a certain way. It’s because most of the battles I’ve fought have been in my mind. Growing up in a conservative homeschool family I didn’t exactly get into ‘worldly’ troubles and party it up as a teen or young adult. I didn’t struggle with alcohol, drugs, guys, hanging with the wrong crowd, or cussing. For the most part (I DO say mostly) I didn’t rebel against my parent’s wishes and desired to obey them even as a young adult still living at home. For me, those outward sins were easy to stay away from, they just didn’t entice me for the most part.
My struggles were secret.
They were in my mind.
They were the little tiny thoughts I mused over and over and over until they became a part of who I was and how I believed. Good or bad.
They ranged over the years from wondering if God really loved me, to doubting God’s promises, to second-guessing myself on many issues, spiritual or other. I thought and worried and wondered and mused and contemplated and analyzed and…you get the picture. It was a silent battle where I could be smiling and seemingly having a great time but inside the wheels were turning hard. The longer I thought about something the more it became commonplace, even if it was wrong or even silly. I was beginning to learn how greatly our minds affect the rest of our lives.
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
There are a host of thoughts that enter our minds every single day and it’s up to us to filter those thoughts through God’s Word. Sometimes that easy and other times it’s really hard. Either it’s hard because we are fearful and want to hold onto those thoughts or it’s hard because there isn’t an obvious scripture on it. Easy or hard we must take all thoughts prisoner and make them obedient to Christ.
While I could continue on about all God’s shown me in this area regarding spiritual matters, that’s not really the focus of this post. It’s more about the power of our thinking as wives and mothers. As a wife and momma myself, that’s the angle I think about the most, but this definitely applies to anyone: man, woman, single, married, young, and old!
How many of us have woken up in the middle of the night to a screaming child and thought: “Ugh. Why, why, WHY?!?! I just want ONE full nights rest!”? You get up with a heavy sigh and stomp off to the kids’ room, gruffly tend to the sleepy child, and groan and you flop back into bed? ::Hand raised:: Yeah we’ve all been there.
The stinkin’ thinkin’ continues as unruly children wake up for the day.
“Why can’t they sleep in just a little?”
“I don’t see how they can make such a mess with breakfast! I mean, it looks like most of it ended up on the floor!”
“I’m doing ALL the work myself! Does anyone even notice?”
“Would I feel more fulfilled if I got a ‘real’ job?”
“I’m never going to get all this housework done. Mountains of laundry and dishes and toys everywhere. Cleaning is useless really, it’ll just get messed up again tomorrow.”
“I never have a moment of quiet! Ugh.”
“My husband should do more to help, he just doesn’t understand.”
“Maybe we shouldn’t have any more kids, I can barely handle the ones I have.”
…..the list of stinkin’ thinkin’ goes on and on and on.
Every wife and mother is unique and different and each has different areas we struggle in, but as a general rule, the above ‘thoughts’ are universal for the most part. We allow little thoughts to permeate our minds and we often times don’t even realize it. We are so programmed to accept the negative thinking as normal that we don’t realize how miserable they’re making us.
Our stinkin’ thinkin’ thoughts are making us miserable mothers, discontent homemakers, and unhappy wives. We are living in a state of negativity instead of glorious contentment. We are unhappy, grumpy, grouchy, and unfulfilled all because of our thinking!!!
Imagine these thoughts instead:
“My little early risers mean more snuggles on the couch!”
“Man, are these kids messy! At least they are growing strong and like trying new foods.”
“God, thank You for noticing all the tasks I do, even if no one else does. I’m serving you, not the applause of others.”
“Being a wife and mom is a ‘REAL’ job. It’s the task God has given me and I don’t need to escape it to feel fulfilled (or a paycheck).”
“I might not get all the housework done today…or tomorrow even, but I’ll do what I can. The rest can wait while I sit down and read to my little ones.”
“It’s so loud around here!!! Better than an empty house!”
“Babe, thanks for all you do for our family. For being a great provider and an even better dad and husband!”
“God, You are the giver of life and all that is good. You call children a reward and an inheritance from You. Please remind me of that every day.”
Do you see the difference?
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
No, thinking positively DOES NOT change your circumstances but it does change your attitude about it. It changes your point of view and forces you to think beyond what your human flesh goes to automatically. It makes you thank God and love people (and your life) more! Who doesn’t want a slice of that cake?!
Thankful Thinkin’ Challenge
I have a challenge for you, one that I’m doing too. The challenge is this:
- Jot down on a piece of pretty paper either 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 or Philippians 4:8. Use fun pens, draw a picture, whatever floats your boat. Now, post it somewhere you’ll see it often: a bathroom mirror, beside the coffee maker, or on the fridge.
- As you go throughout your day ask God to bring to your attention areas where you have stinkin’ thinkin’. As areas come to mind, make a conscious effort to change the negative thought to positive. It might seem awkward and difficult at first but it will get easier. You might have to get creative in some areas! It’s not always easy to find the good! Use this as an opportunity to thank God for the little things.
- Come back here or on our Facebook Page and share with us one area where you changed your thinking that day! I want to hear how God’s changing your heart and mind in your life!
Let’s get to it!